Letting go because of your own peace.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. One thing I have come to realise over the years is that as humans we cannot escape getting hurt by fellow human beings or also us hurting others; it is a normal thing and something that is meant to happen and is a part of life. No matter how careful you are, people will still hurt, and you will hurt people, whether intentionally or unintentionally. I feel like getting hurt and also hurting people is also one inevitable thing that exists in the world we live in.

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I believe we all have been hurt by someone, and then we vowed to never let go or, in a way, get back our own pound of flesh, and then we are forced to carry that pain inside of us, whereas those who actually hurt us have moved on with their lives and are living a happy life while we keep hurting ourselves even more. One thing with holding onto pain is that the longer you hold onto it, the deeper it cuts and the more it hurts, which makes forgiveness feel like an option whether you want it or not because that's the only way you are free and happy.

I think everyone is worthy of forgiveness, but what they did to hurt you is what we weigh if it is forgivable or not, but for me, every individual is worthy of forgiveness; it is just the wrong they did that determines if they get the forgiveness they are worthy of or not. Stepping on a person, whether intentionally or unintentionally, is easily forgiven, but doing things out of the ordinary to hurt a person is hardly forgiven. One time I told my friend about a job opening at a bottle and sachet water company and how I wanted to apply; he mocked me and discouraged me from applying for the job.

I stayed a few days thinking about what he said, and then I decided to go for the job anyway, only to get to the company and meet a friend of mine already working there, and to this date, words cannot describe how hurt I felt when I made enquiries and was told he was the one that filled the only open spot. A pain like this is sometimes considered unforgivable, but for my own peace and my own happiness, I had to let it go, and if somebody is hurt like this and decides not to forgive, I won't even blame them because I also know how I felt for months before I decided it was time to let go.

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Carrying the pain drains you and stresses you both mentally, emotionally and physically, which makes forgiving very important because it frees you of the burden of having to carry that pain, which can be really draining. I do not advise carrying the pain because the one that hurts you will be living a happy life while you that was hurt continues to wallow in the pain and like insiad earlier, the longer you hold unto the pain, the more it hurts which means holding unto the pain does you more harm than actual good which makes finding a place in your heart to forgive and move on very important.