Interesting read.
I do have a different perspective to this especially on:

So i told my friend today that all I need now are the means, the tools the resources to put things together and fast track my time to the future were i truly live now...

I got an amazing friend like this, where the village elders gave him 100 hectares of land near Benin City to start his palm plantation. (So he was given this opportunity) now he is asking everyone to provide him resources and tools to start the project. (Again with the same motto - “I need the opportunity..”) we are now 6 years in - and not that much has happened.

My take on this, is that he is not creating opportunity for himself - but rather expects others to create that for him.

The alternative approach would be if someone starts with a small area way less than my friend was given. Invites the villagers to do cross cropping on the land if they would help out on the land a bit. When the first income comes, you expand and build.

If people take responsability for they own success they don’t need others to rely on to make it happen. Opportunities are created and the process of building it brick by brick is so much more worth than getting it presented.