The Treasure I Found in Forgiveness

The day I realized that forgiveness isn’t about the offender but about reclaiming my peace, joy, and emotional well-being, I chose to forgive any human being that caused me pain no matter the level of that pain.

No need to battle with the silent struggle of unforgiveness, no holding back and causing myself emotional pain; it's simply unhealthy, and in some cases, the offender doesn't even know he or she did or said something that is depriving me of my joy.

The person still moves about with her daily life activities, and I am somewhere feeling pain and sadness. Never, I will rather forgive even in advance and live happily with my life rather than die in silence over unforgiveness.

I understand that there could be a level of hurt that can make one say no; this one doesn't deserve my forgiveness. I see no reason to forgive him or her. It happens, but the more you don't forgive, it becomes a weight inside of you.

I was there, so I can totally relate to this kind of weight within. The feeling of betrayal by a loved one can be so painful. Someone I cared for, someone I sacrificed my happiness for just to see her happy and free. Someone, everyone around me always commends me on my care for her, but when she chooses to betray me, I feel shattered. I was waiting to wake up from such a dream, but all to no avail. It was my reality, so hard to believe but I had to accept my fate and moved ahead, but one thing was a burden: I couldn't forgive her easily. It was a silent battle that ate me so much.

I told myself that she doesn't deserve my forgiveness because her action was terrible. I feel ashamed even to let it out here, but then, it is what it is. Humans can change; just give them some time and see another side!!!

However, I knew no peace; all the time I struggle to let go. Holding back the forgiveness was a weight, and the day the Holy Spirit helped me to let go, I did with a calm discussion with this lady, expressing my forgiveness to her even when she didn't apologize, and from that moment, it was as if a load was removed from my heart, and I felt lighter; my peace and my joy were restored. I felt happy once again; it was as if I had won a treasure, and I couldn't imagine what I had done to myself all the time I was carrying the weight within. I forgot to tell you that I didn't wait for you to come and apologize first. Obviously, she didn't care. I was the one who was hurt , who was feeling the pain and so i.needed to make effort and be free and that effort was to embrace forgiveness through action .

It was an experience I would never forget in a hurry.

Overall, forgiveness is freedom; forgiveness is joy. It is worth embracing!

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