Single.... For now

The choice between staying single and being in a relationship right now, yep I would choose to stay single, at least for the time being, because i dont think it would be realistic for someone to say that they want to be single forever, its not even healthy and ultimately i am of the firm belief that human beings were meant to be social creatures and were created in pairs for a reason, but all that aside. I know my answer might surprise some people because society often treats being in a relationship as the ultimate goal, especially where im from. There is this expectation that everyone should be actively looking for a partner, and if you're single, then you must be searching for someone, but as a personal decision has less to do with avoiding relationships and more to do with where I currently am in life.

The truth is that I just have a lot on my plate right now, between personal goals, responsibilities to my own self, career ambitions, and the countless things I am trying to build for my future, my attention is already stretched in several directions. At this stage of my life, I need focus more than anything else. It is no secret that a healthy relationship requires time and effort. These are things I take seriously, and I don't believe in giving someone half of what they deserve, as i would also not want someone to give me half the effort.

That is why I think entering a relationship right now would be unfair not just to me, but also to the other person. If I know that my priorities are elsewhere and that I cannot fully invest myself in a relationship, then bringing someone into my life would be selfish. They deserve someone who is present and ultimately ready to grow with them. At the moment, I cannot honestly say that I am in the best position to offer that. I believe there are seasons in life for different things. Some seasons are for companionship and romance, while others are for growth, self discovery, and personal development. Right now, I feel like I am firmly in the second category and of course as i've earlier said that does not mean I have given up on relationships or that I plan to remain single forever. That is far from it. I still believe that meaningful relationships can add tremendous value to a person's life. Having someone to share experiences with is a beautiful thing and when the time is right, I would be open to that.

So if I had to choose today, I would stay single..... For now.