The Bond that holds even in Absence

Some bonds can break easily but the bond of a family related by blood can only be ignored but not entirely broken.

Growing up we could easily say to our friend for doing something wrong that "you are no more my friend."
Yet my siblings will destroy my toys, i would be sad but never said to them "you are not my brother or sister again". You naturally forgive and move on quite easily .

The family bond has its own dynamics and natural preferential treatment that knows, defends and protects his own even in seemingly difficult situations.

You will hear, i cannot leave him or her just like that. He or she is still my family no matter what.

It is this bond that keeps us holding on to the memories of our dearly loved ones.
You cannot resist the pains or tears of your family members. Their struggles, pains, fears and battles suddenly becomes your own heartache that you simply cannot let go.

The bond of a family is one of the strongest, silent motivators that makes us strive for success to be better, to make our family proud, our spouses and children happier.

It is the one reason that makes distant relatives show up for events even when they are miles away.

The family member who cannot support financially, but are available to help, clean, arrange and tidy up an environment were drawn by the bond of family.

Yes, we are related and that means i know you even when I have not seen you before just like the announcement of a new baby to the family, the joy it brings and echoes across barriers and distance knows no limits.

Some Family bond was created in the living room with little ones crowding around the parents and grandparents enjoying a movie together, eating together at the dining, reading a story together before bedtime, morning and evening prayer devotion, assisting in the kitchen, helping or cleaning together and going to the farm together, my parents teaching us to speak our dialect since we didn't grow up in the village were the different routines we used to create and sustain a good family bond.

I still remember cooking together with my mum and I still rate my mum's Edikang ikong soup 10/10. It just has this particular taste I cannot fully replicate. Even my in-laws always requested for her signature Edikang ikong soup whenever they wanted to visit.

Whenever I speak Ekid dialect, someone will say so you can speak the language but it lacks that village tone and emphasis, you didn't grow up in the village. I remember during my traditional marriage, My aunt who was trying to teach me how i would introduce my spouse in my dialect was surprised when my mum interrupted her and said she can speak it. I was not so sure until my uncles said to me after the ceremony, you surprised us and you spoke well. I was so happy and grateful to my parents for teaching me.

Family bonds helps strengthen social behavior and cultural heritage, instill good moral values, promote love and harmony among brethren and also teach support and care for ones family.

A family that does not bond is like a house without roof, it has the foundation and structure but no covering or protection.

It’s worthy to know that family bonding depth and strength varies with who is always more available. So you see even with an absent family member, the love, respect and sense of belonging and responsibilities cannot be defeated or defensive.

This is why a child that was raised alone will one day want to know the other parent.

I believe we were created and placed in families to love, respect and protect each other despite the conflict or crisis that may happen in the family.

They more a family bonds together, they happier everyone gets to be.

**Image is mine **