Raised Them Informed.

I recall as a child saying something that was somehow related to body parts in front of my parents, the room would atmosphere would shift, eyes would go wide, Someone would switch the subject and I would think I had said something demonic. In our own family growing up, sex was hardly discussed. We all figured things out by ourselves, from friends, internet, where our parents wouldn't have approved of at all, that was the mistake, and a lot of us are still carrying the consequences of it.

Here's the truth nobody wants to say plainly, if your child isn't learning this things from you, then he will learn it from someone else, You are not going to enjoy the way they are teaching it to them or the manner in which they are teaching, The streets don't care about your child's emotional readiness, the internet doesn't care about your values, It is not your child's best interests when that classmate who “knows things” is sharing information behind the school building , you either have the conversation or you leave your child to navigate one of the most significant parts of their life completely alone, those are the only two options.

When, then, is it appropriate to do this? Well, before most parents would like to let their kids too far. In an age-appropriate and consistent way, but not in graphics. A 5 year old should be able to name their body parts, and understand that no one has the right to touch them without their permission. Before the ten-year-old begins to experience puberty and become afraid, there needs to be some understanding. A 13 year-old should be having actual conversations on boundaries, relationships, and healthy versus non-healthy, This is NOT one talk, this is a continuous kind of talk that expands with your child.

How you do it is as important as the when, When you enter the room as though you were preparing to give a funeral speech, your child will be lost before you have been able to say much more than your first sentence, the conversation should seem like a conversation and not a lecture, It should be comfortable, it is important for your child to understand that he or she can ask you questions and you don't have to get upset or embarrassed that he or she is asking, because it's normal to be curious, what gets people into trouble is their shame.

Talk about protection, discuss consent – to consent and to ask for consent, Discuss the emotional aspect of sex, rather than just the physical, discuss peer pressure and how to deal with it,talk about the difference between what they see in movies/on television/in the internet and what they think intimacy is like in real life, these conversations can save lives, they prevent unwanted pregnancies, they prevent abuse from going unreported, they develop children that know their own body and respect others.

Our parents avoided these conversations with the best of intentions, they thought silence was protection, It wasn't, It just meant we walked into a very complicated world with no map and had to find our way by trial and error.

Your child deserves more.

Be the talking parent! Be the Parent they Can Come To , Be the parent that makes it Normal.

Because if home doesn't feel safe enough to ask questions, they will find the answers somewhere else.

And somewhere else is not on your side.

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