SOME MODERN COUPLES ARE COMPLETELY OVER THE CUSTOM

My husband did not ask permission. When asked, he'd say the tradition conflicted with his feminist values. We agree that I can make my own decisions. My dad said he would have been alarmed if Pete had asked, and that my Mom (strong independent woman that she is) would have been the more appropriate choice anyway.
Max didn't ask my parents because he said he knew they'd say ‘ask her’; which ended up being exactly what they said after the fact when we talked about it. They felt like they shouldn't really be a part of the equation aside from being part of the celebration!
My fiance didn’t ask my parents because he wanted to be more spontaneous about it. I told him yes, and thought it was sweet and very romantic, but that our engagement would not really be official until he got their blessing.