Just because it's normal, doesn't mean it's okay...

I forgive easily... not because I'm stupid, but because I've already held the other's karma so that it doesn't hurt so much.

Therefore, it is better to have the past as a reference, and not as a residence, to stay and live eternally in what has already happened.

There are things that are normalized because they are common, because it is what we see and what is repeated, and that does not mean that they are okay. What is good is because it adds to our growth, to our benefit or to make things better for those around us. However, that interpretation is deeply personal.

I think that you and mine might not look alike.

On the other hand, the normal responds to the judgment of the majority, what others believe to be valid and acceptable. Even if it's not right, even if it leads us in a worse direction. Sometimes the good and the normal look alike, but that many people see the world in one way does not make it right. It's not about guessing.

The problem is not that the other person doesn't guess what I want, but that when I tell them, they don't do anything. Because the other person does not have a crystal ball, nor does he have to have one... the real conflict appears when you tell him what you want and that person ignores it.

Considering that the other may not be able to give it: we are asking for something that has not been in that person since before we arrived and no matter how much we want he is not able to deliver it. In the same way, our needs do not matter to him, really that person is with one as long as it is comfortable for him, as long as we accept what he gives you without complaining, without criticizing, without making value judgments.

It is also possible that this person feels that it is not his task to give but to receive, there are those who do not believe that they should incorporate the needs of the other, but to be cared for, cared for and pampered.

Being yourself should be the most natural thing in the world, and yet it's what we struggle with the most, because along the way comes the fear of rejection, of not fitting in, of disappointing. In any case, when the other does not take into account what is important to us and does not take the time to find a solution, he is giving us a clearer message than we may want to hear.

The most magnetic energy is that of someone who enjoys his own company. We will be so big brain decide to size it our brain.

The question is not whether something is normal. It's whether, beyond what everyone else does, you can maintain that it's okay. There is no greater luxury than a life in peace.

Janitze.🌷❣️