When Life Happens - Week 39

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The topic of this week is quite interesting, and I would have loved to share my thoughts on all of them, but I'm afraid time will not permit me to do so. However, I want to take some time to discuss a particular dream of mine that has been on my mind for the past three years.

Three years ago, I had a dream of traveling outside Nigeria, the country where I reside. I have always wanted to explore the world beyond my homeland, to have a vacation and see the other side of the world. I made plans to achieve this dream by trying every possible means to get myself to the United States of America, where I intended to stay with my cousin once I finished school.

But then, life happened. I got married, and everything changed. I'm still happy that I got married, but my dream of traveling outside the country became a bit more complicated. However, I haven't given up on this dream. Instead, I now hope to travel with my family, not alone.

As humans, when we don't accomplish our dreams or goals at a particular time, we tend to blame ourselves or others for the misfortune. We begin to question our actions and motives, wondering what we could have done differently. But the truth is, whether we win or lose, life remains a beautiful place.

I won't blame my husband or children for not being able to travel outside the country. They are my blessings, and I'm grateful for them. Although I'm not where I want to be now, it doesn't mean I won't get there someday and still be fulfilled. Three years ago, I never imagined I would be a mother or a wife. These are significant achievements that I'm grateful for, and I will still push to accomplish more things.

However, my dream of traveling outside the country affected my way of thinking in several ways. At some point, I would see some of my peers posting about their luxurious lifestyles and big cars, and I would start blaming myself for not working hard enough to achieve the same. I would tell myself that it was because I got married and had children that I couldn't travel. I would complain about the responsibilities that made it difficult to save up for my dream.

I became very bitter about myself as a whole, but I realized that I wasn't at fault for not being able to travel. God has a purpose for everything that happens in our lives, and I trust that I will find out the reason for this someday.

The only thing that keeps me going is the fact that I have achieved more than I expected in the last two to three years of my life. If I had traveled outside the country, I wouldn't have met my husband or given birth to my children. Sometimes, circumstances change our dreams for the better, and we can't even realize the reality.

As a musician once sang, "This is, this is who we are, and our reality is our reality." We should all wake up to this reality and make the best of what we have.
I wish the youth of today see that and emulate the good side of life. Walking down today, I heard a boy of about 12 years old say"I no fit wait to plus up" Just imagine what he wants to do with his life.
Am happy and fulfilled with what I have achieved so far in my life.
Thank you for reading and hoping to see you soon.