Support Without Dependency

There comes a time where I used to believe deeply in helping people. I was willing to help people when no one was able to believe in them, there was a person that would go to a very length in order to be of help to someone even when it causes inconvenience to me.

I gave them chances. I forgive. Sometimes I couldn't even count the chances I give to others. I told myself that all people needed was someone to just believe in and confide in that one person. Just on unexpected act of kindness and everything can change but sometimes it changed but those were just that were difficult moments.

At first I thought it was just so uncomfortable most people don't realise because they we are on the right place or we just said they realised because desire to stand on their own and take responsibility for their life help you give feeling that putting up boundaries can turn into entitlement.

I began to notice this kind of pattern the moment someone began to believe they are too special and they were doing me a favor to be around me that someone will always save them and they can find someone better that ome to help or to go go out of my way to help results appear deadline became pleasant but but they are all exquisable. We made the opportunity that we made became someone's program and surely this help.

I thought I was supposed to leave them was what was holding them in the place and feeling entitled to not move forward. I would just empower them, I was just including the consequence of their actions. So over time this just helped let me feel so good. sometimes good intentions cancel bad outcomes or bad intention from others.

What we're like is actually fear, maybe fear of people feel trying to learn valuable lessons to our lenders. We have not started endlessly of course, life is about helping and knowing when to set the boundaries and allowing others to also grow from there and learn their lessons. It allows discomfort, it respects the fact that others might be kinder with a decision they make now. You have to help it differently.

Some people don't need a lifeline, they just need to learn how to grow up and be man enough.

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