Inclusivity, Identity, and the Meaning of a Safe Space

I’ve spent the past six months building a home for the Fiberarts Community, and honestly, I feel like I’m rebuilding myself in the process. A big part of this journey has been about understanding others, seeing things from their perspectives, and reflecting on my own views.

Tonight’s internal topic was “inclusivity and creating a safe space.” Earlier, I attended an event on my favorite platform, GoBrunch. I had to step away for a bit, and when I popped back in, I landed right in the middle of a lively discussion: “Should people use their real names and photos on LinkedIn?”

It’s a topic I’d heard mentioned before but never really explored. I’ve been “Artemisnorth” for as long as I can remember—it’s my brand, my identity online. Even my husband calls me his “Goddess Artemis.” I don’t hide who I am, but I choose who I share my legal identity with.

The host of the event, someone I’ve known for a while, is known for sparking these kinds of conversations. As usual, I found myself in the proverbial “hot seat.”

“Okay, stay calm, don’t swear…” I thought. I shared my perspective, the host moved on, and my gears started turning. Why should it matter if someone uses a pseudonym or a different image? How does that affect creating a safe space? And how does it make me feel?

Someone in the discussion said, “People who don’t use their real name or picture must have something to hide.” That hit me hard. Do I have something to hide? No, I don’t believe I do. But suddenly, I found myself questioning everything.

Then it clicked. I was forgetting who I am. I was letting others’ expectations affect how I see myself. And that’s when I realized how this discussion was making me—and others—feel. It wasn’t a “safe space.”

Projecting our own views or expectations onto others only creates tension. Inclusivity isn’t about making everyone fit into the same box. It’s about ensuring people feel they can be their authentic selves, connect meaningfully, and truly belong.

It’s not just about creating a space—it’s about building a culture of understanding, respect, and genuine connection.

Until next time friends...