Knock Down the Citadel Inside

Your job is not to seek love, but to seek and find a barrier within you that prevents it from entering

Before looking for and expecting true love out there, look inside yourself. Have you actually received it? Do you feel worthy of being loved?

Sometimes, we unknowingly reject it. On the other hand, sometimes we also build a fort that makes others reluctant to love us.
and we have to first self-instantiate, what has kept us away from love.