To be BIGGER

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It’s OK to be BIGGER than your partner!

We have been conditioned to believe that as a woman, we should ALWAYS be SMALLER than a man.

Due to this programmed narrative, we often ASSOCIATE matching or exceeding our partners weight or size with feelings of self hatred.

It’s important to remember EVERYONE has completely DIFFERENT genetics, skeletal structures AND metabolisms. These varying factors dictate HOW our bodies look, meaning weight can look different on everyone.

As a woman you can feel like you HAVE to be dainty, petite and small. This narrative has been CONDITIONED in us by everything we consume, women always being shown as the DELICATE counterpart.

My favourite tv shows and films growing up would ALWAYS depict a woman with a much smaller frame and a contrastingly much bigger partner.

I would see them wearing their partners sweatshirt like a dress, because it was that BIG on them.

Being EASILY picked up.

Taking up LESS space sitting on their partners knee.

I’ve had previous relationships where as the bigger one, I’d WASTE so many hours loathing my body for not being lighter than my partners, questioning HOW they could love my bigger body.

Now, I know its OK if my bodies bigger than my partner. Its OK if my body weighs more than my partner. My body is my own. It’s unique, and it’s DESERVING of love regardless of the space it occupies.

The size or shape of my body does NOT define the love I am allowed to receive from my partner.

The size or shape of my body does NOT define me as a woman.

I am defined by so much MORE than my body, and so are YOU 💗