So Big

I have lived long enough to know that appearances do not guarantee long-term emotional bonds. I have seen it in several life scenarios. A big wedding is possible when the family of one or both spouses is large, and the unity among each member is so strong that not being invited is unforgivable.

The other type of giant wedding is filled with countless strangers. Neighbors, friends of a friend of a friend. People who just happened to be there, or who knows. Probably it’s feeding the ego of one of the two spouses. My wedding was small, and I liked it that way.

If I had had a lot of money, it would still have been a small wedding. It’s not that I’m stingy, but I know that the size of the wedding is not directly proportional to the quality of the love with my partner. Do you know how many times people show what they feel in front of everyone through material means?

Three months later the story has changed a lot, and each one has irreversibly moved on to another partner. Time and money wasted. Money and time that don’t grow on trees and could have been used for more productive tasks, or with much more special people.

A small wedding can turn into a great marriage. If there is true compatibility, it doesn’t matter in the end whether it was big or small. What matters is that feelings flow, that respect and admiration exist. What matters is that they communicate and build together a future where both feel good with themselves, not with the thoughts of everyone else.

_{English isn't my native language. Text translated with DeepL}